Who do you turn to?

IF we look at our Facebook profile page we’ve probably all got hundreds of “friends” but you and I both know there is only a small handful who actually are our closest friends, who you have cried to, vented to and know the real you.

We are surrounded by so many people in our life that can influence us, and sometimes not for the better. Take work for example I’ve worked for some incredible male & female bosses. There is only 2 that I would go back and work for (not that I’m returning to corporate life) but because who they were in life, their family values and the fact they were the same person at work and home life. In short they were amazing leaders and brought out the best in me.

In my personal life, more recently when I became a Mummy the people who I thought I would be turning to changed very quickly. I’ve touched on it before but I experienced some level of PND, not straight away it came later for me. I had some people around me who 1. Said there was no such thing as PND and I was just sleep deprived 2. Didn’t understand it or know what to do 3. I put on a front, so only my husband saw the melt downs and tears because I was trying to keep up with the other Mummy’s whilst holding it all together.

The people who helped me through it all and I felt I could be brutally honest with was a small group of people & a Mummy’s Group (nearly an hour away in peak traffic!). All who had been on the same or similar path as me and gave me tips along the way. Some I’d known for years’ others started as acquaintances then quickly became role models for me. I will always be thankful for being able to pick up the phone and have hour long convos xx

Now my little boy is approaching 3 and my group of women who I can turn to is still small & selective. I feel comfortable if I burst into tears suddenly for no reason (only last week!)  they get it.  Make sure you have you have your crew/tribe/girls/ladies/people who you can always turn to and in return they help you get through whatever life throws at you, we aren’t here to do life alone its better together!

Have a lovely weekend xx